The truth about lies

girl: Am I getting fat?

guy: (Without a moment's hesitation) Of course not, In fact I think you have lost a bit of weight recently.

girl: Wow that girl sure is pretty.

guy: Oh no.. Not as pretty as you. (While secretly thinking woo hoo What a girl!)

teacher: Where is your homework?

student: My cow ate it.

Now unless you are a Gandhian I am sure your responses to the above situations might have been just as dishonest(Probably a bit more imaginative). Why do people lie? Is lying really such a bad thing as most people around me keep telling me?

Before I penned this down I thought of all the lies I cooked up over this week. Almost all of them had the same effect. They just made people happy or more comfortable about you or themselves. Take the teacher example: Now find me one person who thinks that's a worse response than telling the teacher I was too lazy to do it or that I was too busy having fun to be worried by mundane things like my homework. The thing about lies is as long as they dont hurt anybody they are perfectly acceptable.

So...Keep lying. It makes the world a better place.

Disclaimer: Dont refresh your memory to see when I was lying and when I was not. If what I said was something nice I probably was lying ;)

Abyss

Its happening all over again,
All I can see is light all around and a speck of darkness in the end.

I feel light.. I am laughing....
The inevitability of the darkness fails to cloud my euphoria,
But its there, present and threatening to take over and plunge me into the depths of despair.

Suddenly its dark and I can see light at the end of the tunnel
I am falling.. Into an abyss.

Love....

"I go to office daily, come home, eat and sleep and wait for the weekends." Sounds familiar? Well that's the only response I get from the mid 20's crowd when asked the generic and loaded question "How's life?". At this point I can bet a few of you are thinking this fella has got the title of the blog as Love and is rambling about something totally different, has he truly lost it?

Well No, I haven't quite lost it, at least not yet. Here's love in a whole new perspective and the most important kind of love we all need to pursue but don't.
Whats the one thing around which your life revolves? Whats the one thing you spend most of your time and effort on?
Its what you do.
So why do you whatever it is that you do? Do you enjoy it? Do you truly deeply and madly love it? I can't think of one person I know who ll answer in the affirmative to this including yours truly. So what do we do about it?

Follow your heart. Just do what you love. Some may say this is wistful, impractical even downright crazy but there is sense to all this madness. If you do something which you love doing you ll inevitably be good at it. Its a rare gift to know what you love to do. Many people(me included) are not that gifted and that's what stops them from taking the step into the unknown. Don't throw away that gift, Its your key to 'true happiness'.

PS: I was inspired to write this after reading this:
http://www.paulgraham.com/love.html

Its all about money honey! Or is it?

Calvin:True friends are hard to come by ... I need more money.

Happiness is a tricky concept. You cant quantify it neither can you be really sure of it. Whats that got to do with the title? Well inexorably the biggest link to happiness is through yet another tricky concept. That of money.

Lets not kid ourselves here. I am not going to be one of those guys with their ludicrous views that money aint essential at all. You need it unless you intend to live like an animal. You need money to survive and live in a civilized and respectable way but once that is taken care of do you really need it? My view on this is you do but how much is anyone's guess, that's a rather personal choice. Somehow all my introspection and the posts which result from that wind up on the concept of "True Happiness". I think I mentioned it in my last post to be truly happy live life like a kid. I again have to return to that holy grail: True happiness. Give yourself a minute and think about the last thing in the recent past which made you 'Truly' happy and I can bet that it did not involve money.

So whats this true happiness thing I keep harping about. So when are you truly happy? Say people earn a million bucks a year but just absolutely hate their job and wish they would rather be doing something other than earning all this money. The same people once in a while get to spend that money and 'believe' that makes them happy. For me the bottom line is if happiness is tied to money you can never be truly happy and live life the way it is to be lived.
You ll never be rich enough and consequently never be happy enough. Money is just the means to reach the 'truly happy' state but not a end and be all in itself.

The most important things which I feel are needed to be truly happy(In no particular order)
Love...
Wait hang on. That's all you need.

That's another post for another day and don't worry its not going to be a corny one involving flowers and heart shaped thingies.